Why Pastors Need to Preach on Marriage

Marriage is one of my favorite topics to preach on. More that 50% of my congregation is married and the balance of the church wants to tie the knot. That means, whenever we announce a series of teachings on marriage, everyone is excited. That doesn’t mean there aren’t a few challenges associated with teaching on marriage. Some singles get frustrated about talks on marriage. It’s somewhat difficult to teach in a new and fresh way. However, the benefits outweigh the challenges.

So I thought I’d share 5 reasons for you to keep a marriage series on the preaching calendar every year…

#1 – Preach on Marriage because it’s good for your marriage – I’ll be honest, there are times that I wanted to cancel a marriage series we had planned because Carey and I got into an argument and I didn’t feel like studying all week about how to be a great husband. The reality is, that’s exactly what I needed to do. Most of the time the disagreements are my fault anyways (haha!) and I need to get into God’s Word and straighten out my own heart. It also reminds me of things I should be doing that I may have gotten lax about.

#2 – Preach on Marriage because Your Congregation Needs It – The #1 reason people come to Calvary for counseling is due to marriage related issues. Every week many couples walk through your doors who are hanging on by a thread. For this reason, we need to be preaching a message that helps couples work through problems.

#3 – Preach on Marriage because We all Struggle – One of the most common themes I hear when I teach on marriage is, “Pastor Bob, I didn’t realize so many people are going through the same things.” Yes, all couples argue. Yes, all couples go through challenging seasons. When couples know that they aren’t alone, it gives us hope because if other came make it, so can we.

#4 – Preach on Marriage because it will Help Unchurched People – Every week I talk to couples who started attending Calvary because we they were invited to our marriage series. Unchurched people struggle in their marriages and are looking for answers on how to be happily married. I’m grateful the church can be that place where we can welcome fellow strugglers and all work together to have happy, healthy marriages.

#5 – Preach on Marriage because It Will Grow your Church – People need Jesus. Many times, marital struggles are simply the tip of the iceberg. I make no apologies that I want Calvary to grow. There are over 5 million people in Broward and Miami-Dade counties and they need to hear the Gospel. I want people to come to know Jesus and grow from infancy to maturity in their walk with God. This happens within the context of the local church. I’m not talking about numbers so we can puff ourselves up in pride. I’m talking about adding people, lives, families to the Kingdom of God. Pastors, never be ashamed for wanting for community to know Jesus and for you be one of the vessels God uses to help them grow. That’s why you got into ministry in the first place.

So preach on marriage, you’ll be glad you did.

The “I’m not an Evangelist” Excuse

I am amazed God has allowed Calvary Fellowship to be such an evangelistic church.

Seriously. We see unchurched people coming to know Jesus every single week.

The reason I’m so amazed is because I’m not an evangelist. I’m a Bible teacher. That’s my sweet spot. Teaching through books of the Bible and feeding God’s people is where I’m most comfortable.

While teaching is my primary gifting, my passion is to see lost people found. Nothing gives me greater joy than to see a lost person give their life to Jesus and start growing in their faith.

I know a lot of Pastors who aren’t evangelists (like me) in gifting think we get some sort of pass for not having to preach the Gospel. So we ignore the opportunities to “draw the net” and see people come to faith in Christ.

Can I be honest? I think it’s a cop out. Even if you aren’t an evangelist, we still have to “do the work of an evangelist”.

I’ve been thinking about this for a couple of reasons.

First, I have a book on outreach and evangelism for Pastors coming out on September 15th (Pull: Making Your Church Magnetic). If you would have told me 10 years ago that I was going to write a book on that topic, I would have told you to get your medication adjusted.

Second, Calvary’s 13th anniversary is on September 22nd and we are in the middle of the greatest evangelistic season in our history.

Our story didn’t start out with people giving their lives to Jesus every week. It started with my wife and I and 5 people in a living room. It started with us not reaching anyone in those first 18 months because “I wasn’t an evangelist”. Then I woke up to this fact: God wanted to use our church to reach lost people if I would simply get over myself. The result has been 2,000 people saved in the last 2 years at Calvary.

So let me share 4 thoughts that I think will help you:

#1 – One of the reasons churches stay small is because of the Pastor’s mindset. The Pastor says he isn’t an evangelist and the rest of the church follows suit. When the Pastor changes his mindset, that’s half the battle. Start believing God can use you to lead people to Christ.

#2 – Pastors get frustrated because they employ bad strategies.  I have a belief that if you do the opposite of what the average church does, you’ll probably grow. We need to stop doing outreach that isn’t well thought out. Good coaching can help. Good planning can help too.

#3 – Start Preaching the Gospel. Even if you aren’t gifted in evangelism, God can still use you. Hey, even a broken clock is right twice a day. You may never lead evangelistic crusades, but God will use you to lead people to Christ.

#4 – When you make evangelism a priority, your church will make evangelism a priority.  When I started presenting the Gospel in all of our services, unchurched people started attending all of our services. When you present the Gospel each Sunday, it becomes part of the culture of your church and your ministry takes on an evangelistic flavor.

What this world needs is faithful preachers who present the Gospel out of a passion for God and a love for people. Who knows, you may find God blesses it and you start to think you’re gifted as an evangelist.

[New Video] 5 Types of Sermons You Preach



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Hey Pastor!

I just recorded a short video that talks about the 5 types of sermons pastors preach.

You can watch it here.

Also, our National Expositional Preaching Month 50% off sale is ending on Friday.

All of our sermon series are on sale!

Here’s a few of the series that are part of the 50% off sale.

 

 

Becoming (A Study in 1 Peter)

 

 

 

 

 

Covenant (A study in Malachi)

 

 

 

 

 

How to Prepare for the End of the World (A study in 1 & 2 Thessalonians)

 

 

 

 

 

Baggage (A study in Philemon)

 

 

 

 

 

 

Happily Ever After (Marriage series)

 

 

 

Simply use the coupon code preaching2013 at checkout to take advantage of the 50% off sale.

Blessings,

Bob

Bob Franquiz
Senior Pastor
Calvary Fellowship
www.calvarywired.com

 


[New Video] Preaching for Evangelism and Discipleship



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Dear Pastor,

It’s August… well, it’s almost August.

If you’ve been part of the Church Ninja for any length of time, you know August is National Expositional month.

(Yes we made up this holiday a few years ago, but we felt there needed to be a month that celebrated all things related to expository preaching.

So that means 2 things:

#1 – We are offering all of our sermon series at 50% off.

We recently added some great new studies that we just completed at Calvary.

 

 

Becoming (A Study in 1 Peter)

 

 

 

 

 

Covenant (A study in Malachi)

 

 

 

 

 

How to Prepare for the End of the World (A study in 1 & 2 Thessalonians)

 

 

 

 

 

Baggage (A study in Philemon)

 

 

 

 

Just use the coupon code preaching2013 at checkout to receive 50% off.

#2 – I just recorded a series of videos on the subject of expository preaching.

You can check out the first part of the series here (It’s 5 minutes long, so it won’t take up your whole day)

I pray it’s a blessing to you!

Blessings,

Bob

Bob Franquiz
Senior Pastor
Calvary Fellowship
www.calvarywired.com

P.S. Remember to use the coupon code preaching2013 at checkout to get the 50% off discount.